"The minute you start caring about what other people think, is the minute you stop being yourself."
Shoes: random store in SoHo, NYC.
We think way too much about what other people think of us. I do. Every single day I walk around in my city, self-conscious about myself, about what I am wearing, about what I look like. And I am not alone, and that is what makes me most upset.
No matter what you look like, how awesome your style may be or how pretty your face might be, being self-conscious is a part of our lives, especially the lives of us, the girls, the women.
People say that women dress for each other, not for men because men don't notice. Well, whoever it is that we may dress for, that someone or those someones are making a bad job at giving back a lot of the time.
When coming to your school or to your job in the morning, wearing a new pair of awesome shoes you just got in your mail the other day, people should pay attention to them and to you not by staring at you but by saying what they think about them to you.
Way too often I experience the staring reaction, the reaction where people stare at you, at your clothes, at your shoes, at your body. And you never know if they were staring because:
A)they like what you're wearing and think you're awesome
B)they hate what you're wearing and they think you're a weirdo.
And this, drives me insane. Because this makes me, as a girl, as a young woman, as a human being extremely uncomfortable in my day to day life. The act of staring might be the most rude act we perform in our lives. Because looking at someone without saying anything is extremely intimidating for that person you're looking at.
And we all do it, I am no exception.
But I am fed up with it, I am fed up with walking around in my city feeling shy and looking down at my phone, or possibly even the ground because I'm afraid to meet the stares of the people around me, to look at someone and see that they are staring, for whatever reason. Because those stares always makes me want to hide.
By thinking too much about what other people may think of you, is gonna stop you from being your awesome, amazing, beautiful self. And that would be a waste wouldn't it, because we don't want copies of someone else. We want new things, unique things, at least, that's what I want.