The Style Gossiper

The minute you start caring about what other people think, is the minute you stop being yourself

June 15, 2012





"The minute you start caring about what other people think, is the minute you stop being yourself." 

-Meryl Streep





 Dress/t-shirt: Topshop

Shoes: random store in SoHo, NYC. 





We think way too much about what other people think of us. I do. Every single day I walk around in my city, self-conscious about myself, about what I am wearing, about what I look like. And I am not alone, and that is what makes me most upset. 

No matter what you look like, how awesome your style may be or how pretty your face might be, being self-conscious is a part of our lives, especially the lives of us, the girls, the women. 

People say that women dress for each other, not for men because men don't notice. Well, whoever it is that we may dress for, that someone or those someones are making a bad job at giving back a lot of the time. 

When coming to your school or to your job in the morning, wearing a new pair of awesome shoes you just got in your mail the other day, people should pay attention to them and  to you not by staring at you but by saying what they think about them to you. 

Way too often I experience the staring reaction, the reaction where people stare at you, at your clothes, at your shoes, at your body. And you never know if they were staring because: 

A)they like what you're wearing and think you're awesome
or
B)they hate what you're wearing and they think you're a weirdo. 


 And this, drives me insane. Because this makes me, as a girl, as a young woman, as a human being extremely uncomfortable in my day to day life. The act of staring might be the most rude act we perform in our lives. Because looking at someone without saying anything is extremely intimidating for that person you're looking at. 
And we all do it, I am no exception. 

But I am fed up with it, I am fed up with walking around in my city feeling shy and looking down at my phone, or possibly even  the ground because I'm afraid to meet the stares of the people around me, to look at someone and see that they are staring, for whatever reason. Because those stares always makes me want to hide. 

By thinking too much about what other people may think of you, is gonna stop you from being your awesome, amazing, beautiful self. And that would be a waste wouldn't it, because we don't want copies of someone else. We want new things, unique things, at least, that's what I want. 


xoxo








14 comments:

  1. The text is just great and you exactly express what I think about this topic!
    But I think you shouldn't be afraid of other people's opinion. You have a great taste of style and look great on your outfit posts! :)

    Greetings from Germany

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  2. Wow, your hair is amazing & you pull off those funky sunnies so well! :-) xx

    http://www.phoenixful.blogspot.com

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  3. you are beautiful, i love what you are wearing! i agree with you totally, after reading this i think that i will try to be less shy about just being in public and try to be braver with what i wear. thank you for this post, you have truly inspired me.
    x jane

    http://thetaleoftwobuttons.blogspot.com

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  4. i totally agree you are so right! i get the same people are always looking at me because of what im wearing and i know i wear different things, but i like that because i like being different with my style so for me its a compliment even if they dont like it. i Dont like the staring ether though because at the same time im so un-confident so could also really do without the staring! i think you have a great style. Great dress by the way its awesome! the shoes are dead pretty <3

    Hayley xx
    www.addictionstoshopping.blogspot.com

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  5. I very much agree with your post here. I grew up in a small town and most people didn't understand the concept of dressing up everyday but that is who I am. I love dressing up and I am not going to change! :)

    You look great by the way- love the shoes! :)

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  6. First of all, tycker det är bra att du tar upp såna här ämnen!Antar att folk stirrar främst eftersom du blivit lite utav en lokalkändis. Tycker definitivt du borde vara stolt över din stil, midgård tycks ha fått en uniform av högmidjade suprör och långa blonda hårsvall på senare tid - alla ser ju pretty much likadana ut, så det är kul med någon som kör sin egen grej!x

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  7. I completely agree with you. We care to much about what other people think about us.
    Btw, you look beautiful in this simply outfit!

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  8. ★ (・∀・)

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  9. The title of this post is such an amazing quote, by an amazing lady. I love how you write and express your feelings. You make so many good points, and I agree with you. I also find myself victim of the "staring reaction". I try to ignore it, but it does make you uncomfotable. You have such an amazing blog; I love it :)

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  10. such a good saying to live by
    I love that quote
    & your hair is awesome!

    www.bobbieaustinscloset.com

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  11. Nice outfit, love the shoes!

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  12. the quote is spot on.

    J x
    p.s. the tee shirt dress is amaze

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